WHY? Why should we have to settle when we really want to get married? A place to get personal things off your chest. March 14, 2014, 10:55 am. Perhaps she was his first love, or first adult love, and therefore no matter how the relationship ended he will always see it has his the love of his life because of the certain intesity of those feelings at that time. While there's always a chance he could be putting on a. 1. "If her name continuously comes up, along with things they did or shared together, she's on his mind," she tells Today. Its not your job to fix it - it's his (and hers). Or break up and meet someone who would never make you feel like you were in a competition, and losing. I get that you want to likely be respectful and understanding, but this isn't a 'normal' situation. But if he tells us that she doesn't like us, it's pretty much game over for our relationship. Ive been cheated on before. Dont we always say that when someone tells you who they are believe them? The best Christmas present I could have gotten. It's not a crime for your ex to date this 19-year-old, but it sure is worthy of thorough scrutiny. It's really best to just believe that if a guy says this, the relationship isn't going anywhere, and we need to move on and find someone who would never dream of saying this to us. Mental health. Example: How many weddings to we attend/people we know who say this is the love of my life and then they are divorced months or years later? The simple reason is jealousy. Ask him to do what you do. Anything is possible but this might not be. or situations/content involving minors. I learned that one the hard way. It doesnt mean his love for you wont grow though, but you should consider this a red flag and proceed cautiously. Agreed. You Were Too Busy Walking On Eggshells. If we bring up the marriage conversation with our boyfriend and he says, "Our friends aren't married," he's trying to prove that we don't need to wonder why we aren't engaged yet. His girlfriend probably can't, but that's why you're the alluring, sexy ex now. He needs to spine up. lets_be_honest We were together for 14 months until august 15th, which was just after our 1 year anniversary. Not for opinions, not for relationship advice, and not for preaching. I might delete this if it gets popular. can you get yourself off? Sources: BaggageReclaim, Psychology Today, Today. A guy with these kinds of hang ups is not a good catch. We doubt it. She needs help, PROFESIONAL help, not some guy she dated years ago. Wife No Longer Attracted to Overweight Husband. You can rely on him. If he says his ex is not only his friend but his bestie, watch yourself. The fuckboy boyfriend comes with a lifelong warranty. (Read: No one knows he has a girlfriend - YOU) And once she got back together with them, it went south in spectacular fashion. Loyal? Does he owe her more respect than other people in his life? You don't have to put up with his crap, you'll find a real man. One good sign is if he can talk about his ex in a pretty objective way without assigning blame, getting worked up, or sounding regretful. Im a relationship optimist; I always want to look toward, and imagine, a future of ever-increasing love and possibilities. We definitely want our boyfriend's family to like us. He should never say "you're supposed to support me" because we're not obligated to just do whatever he wants and think however he wants. What should I do? Those moments should be for you, not for someone he dated agesago. This is basically the worst, most immature thing that a guy could say to us. If our boyfriends say these 20 things to us, our relationship isn't going to last. No matter what he says, he can't love you back. For example the way you love your first love is not the same as the second, third, forth and so on boyfriend. Do you want another story? Im selfish that way. Hopefully it doesnt offend anyone to say this but I thought it spoke to my exs weak character the way he handled things. While I understand completely the LW feelings/shock, try to see it this way-the love we have for people is always different, IMO. By katxo, 10 years ago on Affairs. Writing this letter to boyfriend, expressing hurt feelings and telling him all this was harder than I thought it . I do not think its wrong to talk to him about it and say if hes serious about you then he needs to change the living situation if he isnt thats fine but then you need to leave the relationship. Except here Ill give it a shot: If youve only seen your boyfriend twice, then hes not your boyfriend. LW1- I think you are reading way too much into his use of that phrase and agree with @ Fabelle so am not going to rewrite what she put so well. Let's just be real here, we love that, right!? Pregnancy and parenting news, given to you in a way nobody else has. I mean, sure, he might not love his new girlfriend as much as he once loved is ex, but to say love of his life really sounds like there no way Ill ever love someone else more than I loved my ex which is a huge red flag! He's Affectionate in Public. Address the Situation Openly. What Does He Mean When He Says "I Hate You?" Lets tackle this question as logically as we can. They are most likely sleeping together or something. How much do we actually want to know about our boyfriends' exes? What a guy says about his exes can reveal all of the above. That could include drug taking, alcohol abuse, leering at women, tight-fistedness, or anger issues. You might not think too much about him thinking that his ex was a workaholic, but we suggest you take it as a sign that he might be needy in his relationships. It's definitely immature behavior. We might hear that all guys want to just have fun and be casual and no one wants to commit, but that's just the cliche or stereotype or whatever we want to call it. She shares gluten-free, dairy-free recipes and personal stories on her food blog, www.ahealthystory.com. Do you really think she should just up and SAY WHAT SHE WANTS out loud? I totally have bartenders that are 900 miles away that I see more often than LW2 sees mystery man. March 14, 2014, 10:23 am. He is her punching bag and maid service. . I'll keep you guys updated! "Beware if she is the first person he calls when something good happens," says Susan, "like a promotion at work, or when he just needs to talk." If he's actually someone worth dating, he probably also dates people worth dating (like you!). "Their thoughts are either actively preoccupied with their ex or theyre putting in overtime to push them out of their thoughts," explains Natalie. I understand you are concerned fro his feelings, to your credit, and there are ways to bring this all up and discuss without putting him on the defensive. Thank you because you are the first one who broke my heart but it's okay because my. Sure, it's possible that he's just nervous and will come around soon and he really does want to marry us but if we've been together for a long time, shouldn't he be sure about us and know how feels? Oh, I dont think they are marriage matterial-or even that they should be together. Trauma is weird and manifests in different ways. Addie Pray Maybe she betrayed his trust and hooked up with one of his friends. There are only a few reasons why this could happen and none of them are good: 1) he still loves her (MOA); 2) he fights dirty (MOA); or 3) he is totally devoid of manners guile and game and doesnt deserve a shot to be with anyone awesome (MOA). Comparing your ex to a new girlfriend (especially to her face) is a bad idea. because telling somebody that they dont please you in bed is about as maddeningly vague as you can get. When lover boy heard himself utter those dulcet love expressions, he feared you'd own his manhood! Caught my boyfriend in a lie and instead of talking about it, he dumped me. We're adults and even if we have some cramps or headaches, we know how to deal and we know how to talk to our boyfriend properly. Sounds like this woman walks all over you and BF, Thats my main issue with her, it feels like she walks all over him. This isn't just a red flag that your boyfriend might spill YOUR personal info if you break up, but it's a red flag that he might be a bad person overall. His mistake is the more obvious one: It is deeply fucked that your boyfriend said his ex is more attractive than you. Nice hostess gift, eh? Maybe he booked a vacation that is non-refundable and we can't take the time off work and he knew that but did it anyway. She thinks that kind of dependence on an ex's social media activity is a bad sign, especially if they use socials to communicate. Shouldnt that person be my spouse? "My boyfriend said someone else's name in his sleep." It's also possible that your boyfriend still cares about his ex, and that's why her name came up in his dream. Afternoon Quickie: Can I Suggest Games for My Baby Shower?. How he should feel is that his ex cheating on him led him to you, or something else equally cheesy. Get onto a real dating site and start actually dating people, you will soon realize what you have been doing is nothing short of the 21st century equivalent of having a pen-pal. Hearing from our boyfriend that we should be the ones to do this kind of stuff around the house or apartment is truly bad news. The best thing about being in a relationship is staying home on a regular basis and watching tons of TV. We all love a guy we can bring home to mama. how is that a mental health issue? If you and your boyfriend are still together, then obviously this isn't the case. Ive thought certain people were the love of my life before and you grow and you change and you accept. Like, a lot a lot. We started dating about a year and a half later, and he showed some skittishness at the beginning of the relationship, he never took his insecurities/baggage out on me. If your guy is blabbing about his ex's personal issues, he is not that person for you. Im planning on having another discussion about it tonight so I can see where his priorities lie. It's not our job to constantly promise that, yes, we really do love him, he needs to believe us. He is suffering abuse, and need to do something. Lola Unless he likes the attention and in that case, I think it\'s time to move on cuz it\'s obvious he hasn\'t. 88. And he's not listening to what we want and need if he just shuts a night out down. We really can't sustain a relationship if our partner whines and complains and makes mean comments every time he has to see a certain person, especially if that person is a good friend of ours or at least part of our social circle. You're shocked, hurt, angry, confused, and maybe even lost. I know, I know. I'm scared it won't work never ordered a pizza to another country lmfao . If he is willing, see if he will go to see a sex therapist for you, if you havent had good sex ever then I really think you are going to tire of the relationship (as you are what probably early 20s) and the sex and seek it out elsewhere. How could a girl possibly have any emotions at any other time? and see each other almost every day of the week. We might even hear from family and friends that we should be getting engaged and that they don't understand why that isn't happening. Even if you ARE alike, it's no good. I'm so so sorry you're having to go through that. "POV: He broke up with you to focus on his career and. If he feels that it's too far away to make any concrete plans, that should say everything about where his head is at in terms of the relationship. Date someone who wants to spend time with you on a consistent basis. Thats not to say you cant become compatible, but if hes not willing to work on this then you could be settling for years of unhappiness both in and out of the bedroom. He can't help her the way she truly needs. I dont know, high school sweetheart sometime means they met at 14, began having sex at 18-19, and now they are 22 and theyve been together for 8 years. Tell him to pack it up ASAP. . Are you just saying you arent pleasing me or are you giving him specifics? It damages the bond you share because he is emotionally tied to someone else.". Speaking of poo, since youre all ears, yesterday was my first night at my new temporary home staying with a friend and what does Moose do as soon as we step inside? My boyfriend and his "ex" wife I met him on vacation in June. New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. The fact that he lives just 20 minutes away and has only bothered to see you two times in three years speaks volumes. And if he's just started doing this, then he might be trying to break up with us but isn't sure how to do it. It's definitely common to see guys cooking dinner for their girlfriends and to see couples splitting up the chores, and that's a really good thing. In reality, though, she's probably not that bad at all and he's the one who is making things tough. He is a shell of himself because he basically doesn't have a life. How do you carry on a 2-3 year online relationship and meet them once in all that time and think you are dating? she puts on clothes to go outside, right? You would accept that as normal? While it might be great that your boyfriend was once close to his ex's family, he shouldn't keep those situationships tight after they've broken up. Unfortunately, people talk and exes do come up in conversations with partners all the time. Maybe he thinks she was crazy just for not wanting to date him forever. Hesskittish about a new relationship and cautious not to jump into anything, but hes never put his fears about being left at the alter on my friend. There could be a few things going on here and none of them are good. My fianc and I live 35 minutes apart (until May, hooray!) GatorGirl In a way, he might feel he can never recapture that kind of love-and I think its true, we are always changing/evolving and so to the way we interpret feelings. For what its worth, I dont think you sound bitter! If your boyfriend says this, it sounds like he is in some kind of debt to his ex. Her voice just plays over and over in my head and its like I'm finding out all over again. Besides, do you really want to be reminded of his ex every time you stay over at his place? My answer to that is a . I would not get into this mess. "General details can be gradually added later.". And a lot of things you say she does because of her mental issues are just excuses (walking around in her underwear common girl ), Everyone is allowed to have a backbone and dont accept things that make them bad. I shouldve told him much sooner, but I did tell him a few weeks ago. Sometimes, however, arguments in relationships can a deeper meaning beneath them. My boyfriend says I'm acting just like his ex and then lashes out at me. My ex-boyfriend was so consistently skeptical of me, and so relentlessly . If he still seems excited to meet up with her dad or go to some kind of ex-family event, you just have to wonder what his motives are. This guy just doesn't. Calling an ex-girlfriend crazy is so clich. Even worse than thinking about your ex all the time is telling your current partner that you think about your ex all the time. File this one under 'sorry, not sorry.' LW3what are you telling your boyfriend when you discuss this? i mean really? Tell him its time to make your satisfaction a priority. Her family is a lot of the reason for her trauma and mental health issues. They will definitely tell us what they're feeling and thinking, as long as we're actually listening. Addie Pray He speaks negatively If he speaks extremely negatively about his past relationships or past girlfriends, it may be a sign that he is not a positive person and he may not be a good person to consider being in a relationship with. If instead of considering you to be unique he considers you to be a carbon copy of his ex, steer clear. I'm 29 and my now ex boyfriend is 26. As Dr. Wendy puts it: "His prized personal time should be spent building a secure relationship with you.". Hung up on the things his ex did? Make sure the source is set correctly and that CORS support is enabled. Like right now I'm feeling really sad and down and I'm about to breakdown. Susan says to steer clear of a guy who has just left this kind of super-serious relationship: "You dont want to be the rebound chick. Some guys really do want girlfriends. March 14, 2014, 10:34 am. LW2- Was this in the forums? If he starts to lash out you even more, break up with him in a calmly matter. March 14, 2014, 1:11 pm. When we started this relationship, He was open and honest. I hope he'll like it . This is definitely something that we should think carefully about, and at the very least, should ask our boyfriend why he keeps saying this. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. Not the sex itself. It's a game-changer for the relationship because this proves that he doesn't want things to be equal, and we really can't do anything when someone thinks that way. If your boyfriend dont want to change this, any of you will be able to have a good life. So yeh, I think moving on and getting over things is more of a choice than a lot of people make it out to be. Tell him boy bye! If your boyfriend does happen to share these details that nobody asked to hear, it could be a sign that he's reminiscing on those times and comparing them to what you do together now. Well, unless he's complimenting us and calling us beautiful, of course. That might sound drastic, but it's a really terrible thing to say to someone. Otherwise, everything is going to be full of drama and conflict, from regular get-togethers to birthdays to holidays. Simply the Worlds Most Interesting Travel Site. It will show you if he's been active on any dating sites since you broke up, or who he's frequently been talking with, and it will give you a good idea if he's seeing someone else. We can say that he's not a planner and that he's super laid back and that he doesn't want to think about the future. Thats what I want to talk about with him when Im able. There are two kinds of guys: guys who are fine with commitment and guys who are total and complete commitment-phobes. Is there a plan? Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. I honestly believe we put too much importance on the words. (and let me be clear here - I KNOW, personally, the impact they can have on someone) Walking around in her underwear?! This is probably one of the biggest signs he's using you to get over his ex. ! Suggest she reads Tickle Your Fancy figure it out & let him read it & start working at it together. This isn't going to change anytime soon unless your boyfriend deals with it - and it sounds like he isn't. It could also be a sign that the person just got out of a relationship that they were once extremely committed to, because they haven't yet had the time, money or desire to get the tattoo removed or covered up. Serving up the hottest food trends and the inside scoop on restaurants worldwide. Hiii me and my boyfriend after 8months of relationship had broken off after 8months.Then we were in touch for 2years.But I used to fight with every little little thing.Actually he was little lethargic and not so ambitious and earn less money.This was upsetting me.Now for over a fortnight his family had seen a girl for him and so do he but he . "I don't know if this is my forever person. kerrycontrary Thank you because you made me feel special and valued. You shouldnt care about how it makes him feel to ask his ex to pick up after herself or put freaking pants on. A guy who thinks that he should be valued over his girlfriend's career is dealing with some dated dating biases. If he couldn't respect her work ethic, that says a lot more about him than it does about her. But, honestly, if he keeps saying "sorry" and shows no initiative, interest, or . 34. nessy I\'m in a situation with an annoying ex and been losing trust in him.feels like the relationship is making me more unhappy than happy now. He is just a feeding source for this horrible person. "Don't go into [very personal]details about your exes," she advises boyfriends everywhere. I think it happens a lot, well a guy having multiple girlfriends not really as much as for married guys. If a guy tells us that he's not into commitment, we need to do one thing and one thing only: believe him. Ppl will do anything they want and others just go along with it. We don't really hear people say "Men are from Mars, women are from Venus" anymore, but men and women still seem pretty different. According to relationship therapist Natalie Lue, guys in new relationships have no need to talk about their former relationships right away, and never in detail. This is a very disrespectful and mean thing to say. I hate calling her his wife but they aren't divorced yet. If something isn't "enough," then it won't do. This particular statement proves that he's either trying to be super controlling or that he wants to start making decisions for us and both aren't great in relationships. Pregnancy and parenting news, given to you in a way nobody else has. I know everyones different, so the comparison might be unfair, but stilla horrible breakup doesnt have to haunt you forever. More likely than not, he's hoping to get some info on his ex or even to run into her there and win her back. And I think that dwelling on certain feelings beyond a certain point when theyd reasonably be considered fresh and spontaneous DOES involve an element of choice. It shows that he's not very respectful of other people since it's such a mean thing to say. All I keep hearing his when I called his mom that day and she told me she found him on the floor dead. We definitely tend to think, "Oh, he's not serious" or "He doesn't know us well enough and once he gets to know us, he'll fall madly in love with us and everything will be perfect." I couldn't stand him! We need to be with a partner who lives with us in the here and now. . I know it can be hard, but in the end it will be good for you. "Beware of a guy who does it in emotionally-charged moments," like when you are having an argument or doing something intensely romantic. 30 Wanda Hutchinson took a few classes in life 3 y Related What a guy says about his exes can reveal a lot. Doute, for her part, was vocal about her dislike for her ex-boyfriend's new relationship. LW3- Maybe him saying sorry is because he is embarrassed and does not know what he is supposed to be doing. He should understand that we're going to wait on him hand and foot and that it's not the 1950's anymore. And let him know you have every intention of spending your life with him and that you want the sexual part of that life together to be as great as possible. I got mad at him and dumped him 2 After you guys broke up, did you ever text him again? Show him yourself. Maybe he's exaggerating, and it's true that he really didn't love her as much as he feels like he loves his new girlfriend. Keep that problem under wraps, dude! He shouldn't focus on his past relationships, just like we shouldn't. Maybe one year, 2 years. should not be attached to a timeline of 8 YEARS. She walks around in her underwear because of mental health issues. Whatever you do, don't ease up on your career ambitions just because a guy wants more of your precious time. It's basically the one who does the dumping and the one who gets dumped. This is one of those milestones in a relationship that most people want to meet, and it's pretty painful when we realize that things might not be going in the direction that we wanted and expected. muchachaenlaventana Would we rather they dislike them or be friends with them? I get that he is a sweetheart, and that is wonderful but he does need to stand up for himself. March 14, 2014, 1:23 pm. "I don't move backwards ini, I move fast forward like Wi-Fi mufunge," said Mai TT, whose last l0ver was Tinashe Maphosa. And he might not be the right one for us, either. Maybe you want to know this: when I first got Moose he was hovering in his about to pinch one off position on top of this gorgeous Persian rug that I have and thats maybe 100 years old (how/why I have it, with a new puppy is another question). Website for moms seeking advice, community, and entertainment. Do you masturbate and know what turns you on and gets you off? It's not the best idea to stick around and wait for him to change his mind. He may just find it impossible to exit her from his life . She loves coffee, barre classes and pop culture. They will definitely tell us what they're feeling and thinking, as long as we're actually listening. . It doesn't mean that we have to dump them ASAP, but it might not mean that we're going to get the grand love story that we've been dreaming of. It's no secret that every couple has healthy disagreements on occasion. Kristin Cavallari and Stephen Colletti are back to spilling new details from high school as they recap Laguna Beach. Why should she change anything - he covers all the rent, bills and most food. He should be thinking about how much his current girlfriend deserves. That's not what real love or true commitment is. Ask him to do what you do. But, hey, it's better to know, right? Wait to decide how you feel about them for yourself. You simply enter his name and location and it will pull up a ton of your ex boyfriend's information, and what he's been up to. Mental health issues has become the ultimate justification. Sure, you are never totally sure of your status right away. If that's the case, it's only a matter of time before that's exactly what happens. You want someone that won't speak negatively of you if things don't happen to work out. But then there are times when a girl needs a date night. Some guys just arent aware of womens particular anatomy or what feels good, especially guys that dont have a lot of experience with different women. He calls her crazy We one-hundred-percent agree. Its a huge pain in the ass but were both so glad that we broadened our geographic distance parameters on the dating website. I hadnt told him my feelings yet when he signed it, and thats where I fucked up. Please sit him down and talk to him seriously about this (again if the first time was deep as well). She needs to go out and have fun and forget her worries. Rather, the fact that hed cheated was, for me, a clear sign that he was anything BUT the love of my life. Then we will become exclusive and see each other at least once a week. do you masturbate? It's different if we're both working and earning money vs. if one of us is still in school or something. You are not dating or even dating this man. Im not saying its easy to choose not to dwell on things; Im just saying its possible. Being a bad person? 6. The lack of whatever is desired is a dealbreaker. He might say it during a fight, whether it's a big or small one, or he might just say it when we've shared a big dream that we want to follow or something that we want to make happen for ourselves. I had a horrendous realization recently: I look a lot like my boyfriend's ex. Now, not every guy is all about PDA, so please don't use this as the single measure of whether he's your boyfriend. But we never want to hear a guy compare us to his exes. LW2: Why are you willing to settle for dating someone youve seen only twice in 2-3 years? Oh I dont know about this. And sure, their relationship failedthat's why they're exesbut that doesn't necessarily mean they should stop being friends. Alexa: I'm currently living with my monogamous boyfriend of two years. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. Oh man. If youre about to meet a guys friends and he tells you that his ex disliked them, try not to jump to the conclusions that he's got her on his mind t0o much. Well, I have a hard time imaging what else would keep those guys away. Of course, if he's sick or really exhausted from work or something, then we get it. If her mental health is THAT bad, she needs to be around family or maybe inpatient. It's not necessarily a deal-breaker, but it definitely could be a red flag that he's not over his ex. 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