Are you sick?. A year and a half had passed since I had picked up his book in my office, and this was where it had taken me: Tom Hanks was willing to read The Dutch House. Im a vegetarian. If asked if she could go any place, that place would always be home. But the only information I had was in the book. She loved Dr.Bendell. Jessica Everett, a genetic counselorat Perlmutter Cancer CentersPancreatic Cancer Centerat NYU Langone, encourages people in this category to look into possible screening options. Never. Everything was tremendously present tense for Sooki. There are no words here, I thought. You understand that other people dont live this way?. And we were living exactly in the moment. Sooki worried about her mother, who had been admitted to a hospital near Rye Brook for a urinary tract infection. I had to turn myself away from the movie of what I thought was happening, the movie I had made for myself, so that I could see her. Mine was the sin of misunderstanding, of thinking that a clinical trial was the point of the story. I have limited time as I work til mid May, then leave the US in June until I come back to start another movie in September. Its why I dont like to go to other peoples houses for dinner: I never want to tell people Im a vegetarian. When I asked her how she was feeling, she might admit to being a little tired or having a bit of a stomachache, nothing more than that. Susan Joan Sooki Raphael of Topanga, CA passed peacefully on April 25th surrounded by friends, family, color, light, joy, and love. One of them was shirtless and had a colorful parrot on his shoulder. I laughed. I floated upstairs in a world that would not stop changing. All this time Id been afraid of prying, only to discover that Sooki was happy to talk, to tell me about the bats, the sailboat to St.Barts, the desert in Tan-Tan, the surgery. She had been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer a year after we met. I can motivate myself without a deadline or a contract. Daughter, husband, sister, friendnone of the people scheduled to visit her could come now that the world was on lockdown. I knew how to do that. This was the closest I could come to understanding what happened to Sooki. I have to feel like Im contributing. I wrote again. Shed called me from outside the airport. We repeated these facts, we made them a mantra. My mother was a pilot, Sooki said, and there she was, suddenly at ease. Tell us. Tom and I are waiting to go on. You yourself are heartfelt, and all the love in the world has been expressed. I called the bookstore and let the staff know that Tom Hanks was on his way over. I turned out the light and kept thinking about the leash, the marathons, the trail running, the yoga, the walking in the desert, the painting and painting and painting. You should have planned for the financial fallout of having pancreatic cancer twice?. She became interested in urban animals. Hanks, by way of reciprocation, agrees to How it happened is told in the title story ofThese Precious Days, Patchetts second collection of essays. When she came upstairs ready to go she was wearing the black-velvet coat with the peonies on it. We did up dog and down dog in endless repetition. Sooki went with him every day. Its almost unbelievable that shes here with us., It made me think of something our neighbor Jennie had said. But all Sooki did was help me. . The emails wed exchanged could be printed out and slid into a single manila envelope. But our truest means of communication arrived in the form of old yoga DVDs. There were pictures of her at twenty-two, beautiful and dark-eyed, standing on somebodys desk in little canvas tennis shoes, her gloved hands holding a bat and a net. When undergoing treatment for cancer, looking inward for inspiration can be a very cathartic journey that helps with recovery. Our correspondence was less about bookstores and more about books. The cell-phone case also served as her wallet, containing her credit cards, cash, IDs, insurance cardseverything important. I must have dropped it. You will not be called upon to be a good guest. I went upstairs to get the scissors out of my sewing basket. RoseGallery featured Sooki Raphael's work in the past. In life, time runs together in its sameness, but in fiction time is condensedone action springboards into another, greater action. When I was very nearly at the end, I came to a beautiful lake, the kind youd see on a Japanese postcard, or my imagined picture of a Japanese postcard. ", (SOUNDBITE OF STATIK SELEKTAH SONG, "TIME"). She was going to be stuck in a chair all day, which was why it was necessary to do it again at night when she got home. View Sooki Raphael's business profile as TH Assistant at Playtone. Sooki had twice flown down to Mississippi with us to visit Karls ninety-eight-year-old mother. And I had never done anything like that before. In making the journey to Oz, she had found the strength and clarity she needed to go home again. There was a delicacy about her that was well-suited to baldness. All resources were now directed at a disease that was not the disease Sooki had. Im supposed to be flying.. Every childhood is strange in its own way. Sooki had gone to work for the New York City Department of Healths Bureau of Animal Affairs right out of college. ROSEGALLERY is presenting These Precious Days, a solo exhibition of paintings by Sooki Raphael, on view from 10 April until 10 May, 2021. Karl had started flying in Mississippi when he was ten. The title essay focuses on Patchett's friendship with Sooki Raphael, Tom Hanks' personal assistant, who spent the early months of quarantine in Patchett's Nashville home while receiving. This is what its like to write a novel: I come up with a shred of an idea. But everyone showed up, all four hundred of them packed in side by side, every last chair in the ballroom occupied. We had just passed Stuyvesant Park when the first tower fell. She was the New York City Bat Lady at 21. By the time Sunday came the urgency would have passed. And we were. No, its wonderful having her here.. We were ready. Sooki Raphael leaves her canvas as colorful as she has led her life. I told her it was all an elaborate hoax. Am I the person youre talking to, or are you talking to someone else downstairs late at night? Id been in touch with Sooki once or twice when there was talk of a bookstore in Santa Monica, and now I pinned my hopes on her as she dug into Toms schedule at Playtone, his production company. She thought it would be fun for a while. Can you imagine Tom sitting at home saying, I cant believe Sooki used my connections to get into a clinical trial in Nashville?, No, of course not, Im just telling you. It has to do with fearing death. Id written a childrens book and was about to go on tour. Something happened to it while I was in the shower., She shook her head. Everything was lit up bright, the table set. There had been a meeting of some sort. Please sign in to save videos. It made her crazy not to be there to help. Where was Sooki? When it. I felt the car pulling up and up, just about to tip over the cresting track. How it happened is told in the title story of These Precious Days, [] There was no stopping it. Sooki Raphael: These Precious Days RoseGallery Santa Monica | California | USA Apr 10,2021 - May 10,2021. He would bring a copilot to split up the hours. Telephone poles were down, and electrical wires snaked across the asphalt. I wouldnt. The mistakes I had made were so clear once I had finished. SANTA MONICA, CA.-. My husband, Ken, will come down for at least part of the time, once Ive started chemo, and I may have other visitors, so I think I will explore some other options in the area, but I cant tell you how touched I am that youve extended the offer. She had said almost nothing and yet my eye kept going to her, the way ones eye goes to the flash of iridescence on a hummingbirds throat. Lets try the car.. I told her, of course, that she would stay with us. When I look back on those first few months of the pandemic, all I will remember is recurrent pancreatic cancer. Shed fallen down some stairs outside of church the night before and twisted her foot and now that foot was swollen and sore. There are days of the distant past that remain so vivid to me that I could walk back into them and pick up the conversation mid-sentence, while there are other days (weeks, months, people, places) I couldnt recall to save my life. Happy to help. But before her passing, she had a long career in the film industry which included her time spent as Hanks assistant before indulging her passion for painting. Just you and Karl?, I thought about it for a minute, shook my head. Would you just paint us a picture of her? The paintings were bold, confident, at ease. NPR transcripts are created on a rush deadline by an NPR contractor. Karl can pull up and youll run in. Could we talk about it sometime? Still, I wanted to double-check. ), she developed a deep and lasting friendship with his assistant, Sooki. She worked for Tom Hanks. Get help here. She painted. She was thrilled to get the chance to work. They were waving. Id be grateful if youd pray for her, I said, because while I was uncertain about prayer in general, I believed unequivocally in the power of Sister Nenas prayers. RELATED:Tom Hanks and Rita Wilsons Friend and Assistant Dies from Pancreatic Cancer; See Their Heartfelt Tribute to the Artist, A post shared by Rita Wilson (@ritawilson), Throughout her illness she painted, she saw beauty, she created and she never wavered, Wilson said. Look at this.. It was late and Id just finished the novel Id been reading. Karl and the dog went out on the front porch to read the newspaper. She has to have children., It could happen. Save me. My mother raised me to be very religious, very God-conscious. So there she was, stuck with us. We talked and then we didnt. She repeated her gratitude and I waved it away. And so she meets Sooki Raphael, Hanks' assistant. His wife, Rita Wilson, is a singer who writes with people in Nashville, where songwriting is a group activity. Susan Joan "Sooki" Raphael of Topanga, CA passed peacefully on April 25th surrounded by friends, family, color, light, joy, and love. It's about Patchett's unexpected friendship with Sooki Raphael, Tom Hanks' personal assistant, which developed when Raphael underwent chemo treatment while living at Patchett's house in Nashville at the start of the pandemic. But her time as Hanks assistant brought her to a woman who would later become an invaluable friend during her cancer treatment and artistic journey. It was just that we had piled up so much junk to keep from hearing it. I wrote and she painted and then we made dinner. I asked whether she was okay. Ann Patchett one night happened to read a short story by the actor Tom Hanks, surprised by its literary quality. I wanted to say hello very quietly so as not to bother her. It looks like a little purse on a long strap?, I asked her if she could have left it on the plane, but no, of course not. Blind Boys of Alabama with Special Guest TBA. Call me crazy, but that seems like a lot. We were well into March by then. . Below is my story. She made wedding cakes that tasted as good as they looked. Once she gets here and sees the way things are, shell be fine.. So every time I am writing a novel, once I get about a third of the way into it and I really know what I'm doing and I love my characters, I start to think, well, what happens if I get hit by a car? Of course we would exercise together; it was good for both of us. How other people live is pretty much all I think about. I saw my mother and sister. I asked her about her trip to Stanford for the biopsy, her flight to Nashville. This whole time Ive gotten it wrong. We can go up and back the same day.. Thought-provoking commentary and opinion on politics, books and the arts. A forest sprung up in the middle of the street. Patchett writes. I knew that she worried about her ninety-four-year-old mother in Rye Brook, New York, and read to her grandchildren in San Diego over Zoom. I came and watched from the open door. Patchett is so 100 percent a writer that you get the feeling that her life doesnt happen unless she writes about it. He told SurvivorNet that after losing his wife, Alice, to a two-year battle with ovarian cancer, hell never really get over losing her, but he does hope to move forward. What Sooki gave me was a sense of order, a sense of God, the God of Sister Nena, the God of my childhood, a belief that I had gone into my study one night and picked up the right book from the hundred books that were there because I was meant to. She told me that at home she had become impatient and angry. Ive got to take care of my nun, I told him. By the time we sat down it was over. Our hearts have been filled with the comfort his films have given us, and that, coupled with the fact that hes a nice man, made it easy to line up a group of booksellers who were eager to pitch in. The plan was that she would go home to Los Angeles during her weeks off, and once UCLA started the trial, she could go home permanently. Parents, siblings and children of someone with pancreatic cancer are considered high risk for developing the disease because they are first-degree relatives of the individual. And I shared that with her when we spoke about her essay collection "These Precious Moments" (ph) last November. The park was packed this morning. But for all the times people have wanted to tell me their story because they think it would make a wonderful novel, it pretty much never works out. Im self-conscious about being in the way, especially if Im not at my best through chemo. And so I just relied on a book to get me through. Read More The Circle (2017) Assistant Sully (2016) . She certainly isnt short of abundant care for others, and by the time you get to the end of this collection its hard not to feel glad she saved her energy for writing. 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She met Sooki Raphael,. My intention was to help Sooki. Read More. She gave us a giant furry blanket that I loved. But this was right, and we would all be fine. KELLY: (Laughter). We have some picnic tables outside the police station, the officer said. Sooki, in her eye mask, was lying so serenely beneath the furry blanket she had brought us from California that I wondered if she was dead. I saw her as an artist. Facedown on a bath mat, I forced myself to take a breath. She told me how lovely it had been to lay down the burden of her own vigilance. Karl spent a huge amount of time studying weather as part of his instrument-rating prep. It would be another year before I saw my father again, an unimaginable unit of time in the life of a child. My reading on this flight is a book called Radical Remission. Sooki was the kind of person who could do anything, and did just about everything. Sookis loving memory will live on in her husband Ken Wheeland, son Cody Wheeland, his wife Sara Wheeland and their children Anja and Oliver, her daughter Alison Villalobos and husband Luke Villalobos, her mother Miriam Raphael, her sisters Judy Raphael and Ruth Raphael, her stepbrothers Michael Fishman and Philip Fishman, and stepfather Ted Fishman an amazing circle of friends and extended family. All the people who love me and how hard this has been for them, the cancer. They took ten vials of blood on one visit, twenty-eight vials the next. Raphael turned to art during a tumultuous time in her life and created works that will continue to be enjoyed long after her passing. Three time cancer survivor, MariannaCuozzo, talks to SurvivorNet about how art helps her express herself. . She painted as fast as she could get her canvases prepped, berating herself for falling asleep in the afternoons. I need to find a Belvedere martini.. And painting and painting. I sent you another book that will show up eventually, a tiny French novel I love called The Lost Estate (Le grand meaulnes) by Alain-Fournier. Theyd fallen on the mailboxes. And the only time I ever feel paranoid about death is when I'm in the middle of a novel because I don't want the novel to die. How was that possible? We waited. But over time the idea drifted to the back burner. Astonishing to come across such a friendship at this point in life. We lit the gas stove with matches and made dinner. Everything looks so logical going backwardYes, of course, thats what we didbut going forward its something else entirely. No one could keep up with her. Old habits. She had wanted to study painting in college but it all came too easilythe color, the form, the techniqueshe didnt have to work for any of it. Well, Sooki said when we were finished. He was thinking about opening one himself. Shes married, I said. I didnt know what I was supposed to do, she told me later. But I didnt forget. Shed scarcely left the house for more than three months and yet it was impossible to push the world back into the Mary Poppins suitcase. Youve been so nice, but you didnt sign on for this. She stood in the kitchen, holding her cup of ginger tea. No doubt if Tom Hanks and Ann Patchett believe their friend to possess such wonderful qualities, she probably is a saint. Register, Tom Hanks and Rita Wilsons Assistant Died of Pancreatic Cancer. My doctor paired up some words I never thought I would hear together: pancreatic cancer and youre in remission! It seems like an early declaration, but Ill take it! There was no hesitation on the canvases, no timidity. It looks like Ill have chemo and maybe a clinical trial ahead. PATCHETT: Yeah. There is a bright therapist named Hassan at my assigned machine, always the same, with a sweet attitude. 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